Every woman is different and every woman wants different things from a relationship. Some may want a family, others grand adventure, some may like a sharp-dressed men, while others like there boys a little grungy. Yes, there are a lot of differences when it comes to what women want, but after looking into online dating data from the dating site Zoosk, we see that there are some universal things all women are looking for.

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Using Zoosk data, dating expert and owner of The Wing Girl Method, Marni has come up with five things every woman wants from a man and tips on how you can take advantage of them.

Video Transcript:
Hey daters! My name is Marni, owner of The Wing Girl Method. And from here on out, I’m going to be your very own personal wing girl. That means it’s my job to explain women to you and break down all the frustrating, confusing, and mind-boggling things that we do. And, I’m also going to tell you what to do to get the women you want using my insider resources.

The team at Zoosk has been sending me a lot of data. One of the surveys that I received was one done on over 3,000 women in the U.S. asking them the top 5 non-physical qualities women look for in a man. I wanted to give you the results of that survey and explain what the results actually mean.

#1: A funny guy with a sense of humor.
Now from this, you may think that every woman is hoping to meet Carrot Top, or Bill Burr, or Louie CK, someone who’s over-the-top funny all the time and can constantly entertain her. This is not what most women are seeking. When a woman says she wants a guy with a sense of humor, she means that she wants someone who can laugh at himself and life, and doesn’t take things too seriously.

Everyone, including you, has the ability to have a sense of humor. You just have to learn how to let it out so others can see it. If you don’t think that you can do that or that you don’t have a sense of humor, you can discover your sense of humor by doing things like taking improvisation classes, watching comedy shows, and using what you see to develop your own style of unique observations.

#2: Someone kind and caring.
This doesn’t mean that you have to be saving lost puppy dogs on a weekly basis, volunteering at homeless shelters, and/or crying at all romantic comedies. Kind and caring for women means you have the ability to be thoughtful and think outside of yourself. That means, asking her about her day, or listening to what she says and then commenting on it. That means, remembering things she mentions to you, and bringing them up later in conversation. Simple little things that sadly most men do not do very well.

#3: A man who’s honest.
This one should be pretty self-explanatory because there is nothing worse than a man who lies. Women want to feel safe with a man and lies do not facilitate any form of safety. Now, being honest doesn’t mean walking into a room and telling a woman that she looks fat in a dress. When dealing with women, I always advise to be honest with tact. Meaning, to be sensitive to her feelings while still not holding back on a truth.

For example, if you’ve just started dating a woman and she says, “So are you seeing anyone else?” And you say, “Yup, slept with one of the girls last night—it was awesome, going to see her again on Tuesday.” I mean that’s honest, but horrible. Instead, you can be honest with tact and say, “I’m dating, but I’m really enjoying getting to know you and I want to see where this goes.” Boom! Honest with tact, plus it gives that girl a little push letting her know there are others out there, but right now she is ahead of the pack, but could fall behind soon.

#4: A man who’s fun.
Women want a man with a full life that they can be a part of. That means a man that has hobbies, things he enjoys and likes to do, a friendship circle, passions, opinions… basically a personality.

A man who is all about work, stressed out, doesn’t have a positive outlook on life, lazy… is no good for us women. And it’s no good for that man either. We like a little fire and excitement, or else things become dull and we move on to greener pastures.

#5: A loving guy.
And the final non-physical quality that women want in a man is for him to be loving. When I think of what I want when I say a man that is loving, what I’m really saying is that I want a man who loves even when I suck. Now I know this is a hard thing to request of any man, but bear with me for a second… We women have a lot of feelings and emotions. Some are rational, a lot are not. But sadly, a lot of things we feel and emote are not always under our control. These moments are the key moments of when this request for a loving man is crucial.

And those are the top five non-physical qualities women want a man. Now you may be thinking I’m not that man or I can’t do what Marni just said. But the great thing is, is that all of these qualities are totally learnable. And I am going to make more videos to explain some of these topics in more detail.

But for now, if you want more direction, advice, and guidance on how to get these qualities and learn to be the man women want, go to www.winggirlmethod.com, and sign up for my free newsletters jam-packed with actionable advice you can start using right now. If there are questions you have about women, make sure to leave a comment below. I always check the comments to get ideas for my videos. And make sure to use me, so you can get all the insider information you need to be super successful with women.

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It’s an unfortunate reality that as the popularity of social networking and dating sites has grown so has the number of reported romance and online dating scams. If you’ve never heard of a romance scam, it’s a type of deception where scammers connect with people on legitimate dating apps, social networking sites, and chat rooms; stage fake romantic intentions to gain trust; and then leverage peoples’ goodwill to get money.

It’s a particularly awful scam, but something to know about these types of scammers is that, once you know what you’re looking for, they can actually be easy to identify and avoid. They often make a lot of spelling and grammar mistakes, will refuse to meet in person, and send odd messages where they’ll try to pursue a serious romantic relationship right away.

To help you get a better idea of what a romance scammer looks and sounds like, we’ve put together a few examples of how scammers speak that may help you identify them more quickly. Check them out and if you come across someone who displays these types of behaviors stop your communications and report him or her right away.

Common things online dating scammers do that you should look out for:

1. Asks you to communicate outside of the dating app or social site you’re on.

Good evening… Lovely profile, how are you? I Like your profile. Online I have not met serious men. Are you looking for a serious relationship? How can I contact you on mail? Today i remove my profile. I did not like the site. If you’re serious, please contact me at mail. my mail Email@email.com

hi ,Im Katy.how are you? I liked u. unfortunately I dont have a suuubscript.I can send only 1 message for freebie:). write me an email I will be glad to talk with you. maybe we can meet. my mail:Email@email.com 🙂 write quickly, I’ll wait!

Text me 555-555 – 5555 …..How are you? I am new here really getting bored,…I have been hurt in the past but cautiously trying this…. you were listed as my match and decided to say hi..I am looking to meet someone nice and special.. you can also email me here Email@email.com if you care to talk,see ya thanks tracy555-555 – 5555.

2. Claims to be leaving the dating app or cancelling their subscription.

hi, how are you? im good. I liked u. What are the plans for the weekend? I want to meet and communicate. I just canceled my subscription so i don’t know how long i can message on here. But i would like to get to know you. So if we lose contact here is my email address.Email@email.com I’ll wait!

Hey there! Love the profile and pics. My subscription ends… But you could leave your emall? So that, i could write to you immediately and i send u more my photos. okay?

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hi, how are you? im good. I liked u. What are the plans for the weekend? I want to meet and communicate. I just canceled my subscription so i don’t know how long i can message on here. But i would like to get to know you. So if we lose contact here is my email address. Email@email.com I’ll wait!

3. Offers to send you more pictures in exchange for your contact information.

Hey there! Love the profile and pics. My subscription ends… But you could leave your emall? So that, i could write to you immediately and i send u more my photos. okay?

Hello. Sorry, but I rarely check this site. Leave me your email. I will write more often, also I will send more pictures.

Hello. you look good 🙂 you could leave ur emal, so that, i could write to u now. and if u want let’s exchange a pics.

Hello. Sorry, I do not visit this site often. Leave your email address. I’ll write more often, and also I will send more pictures. I’ll be glad to talk more.

I like u =). Im going to work and dont have much time. Wryte to me now: Email@email.com. I will sent u my pic today and agree on a meeting. =). Write now.

4. Looks for a serious, long-term relationship right away.

Hello. How are you doing? I’m new to online dating and I’m yet to know how it works here. I’m looking for a long term and serious relationship. I’ll love us to know more about each other and see how things work out between us. I hope you don’t mind dropping your mobile number so I can call or text you later. My number is 5555555555 I hope to hear from you soon.

Women On Zoosk

I’m here seeking a lifetime partner a serious relationship that can lead to marriage i live in dallas, i’m a us military army ,5’6” from PR add me on facebook(facebookname) or google hangout(Email@gmail.com)

Good Mornign to you, Am 34years old single mother with one belovely son, i was born and raised in Beech Grove Indiana and looking forward for honest,caring,lovely,serious, respect,humble,loyal,trustworthy and God fearing man to settle down with for the rest of my life….If you are the lucky guy here is my cell number +1 5555555555 ]to start knowing more about each other….

5. Has a job or role outside of your area or the country.

Am currently on a military deployment in Liberia my last mission having a year to be back before I will relocate to the US also buying a house there soon and that will be a place where the woman I get along with on here will love to spend the rest of her life with me happily

Hi. Are you new on here?. I have been on here for about 2 weeks and never came across your profile. I must admit you are beautiful. How’re you doing? I’d love to know you more. I’m in Atlanta, GA till next week but you can reach me on 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5. Let’s talk more . look forward to hear from you.

6. Is excessively complimentary.

Hello there. You have got a beautiful smile that doesn’t go unnoticed and I wonder why you are still on a dating site because you definitely should be taken by now. I hope you keep smiling every day of your life. I would love to get to know you better but I find it hard to communicate often on here. You can text me on this number 555 555-5555 only if you feel comfortable about it and wouldn’t mind at all. It will be a pleasure to know you. Good morning

Hi Beautiful!How was your weekend?Wanted to compliment you on your beauty and yes I do have to admit that you have exquisite looks, specially your eyes are very attractive and you have a distinctly sensual smile.It is a privilege to have found you here.

7. Gives a lot of details about his or her life in the first message.

Hello nice to meet you and my name is Elijah But you can call me Eli like I said in my profile..i like your pics and profile too and I will like to know you better.I just moved to Raleigh NC last September..I’m born and raised from Somerset NJ.I have my own house and real estate company here..I Live alone with my two wonderful dogs and I’m hoping to settle down with the right woman but no rush Friendship first and see if we have same chemistry and good connection together.. what about you.What are you looking for in a man?..What do you like to do for fun?I really don’t come on here all the time due to my busy time at work.. But here is my number 5555555555 feel free to text me if you think we are both Looking for the same thing and No games and no drama please I’m Looking for someone who is real and ready for something serious with the right man Have a good time and Looking forward to hear from you.

thanks for your response, your sense of humor can not go unnoticed, i had a good laugh reading your message, well i’m glad your editor is off today, lol… i’d tell you this quite frankly, i honestly do not care about the distance between us, yes i live in georgia, but you know for two people who are sure of what they want, a couple miles wouldn’t be anything, well to tell you more about me, i am originally from Brazil, which is the country of my parents, i moved to the united states a couple years ago, i was married but unfortunately we got divorced, but i have absolutely no regrets as a beautiful daughter was made from that marriage and i practically raised that amazing kid alone, we have such an amazing father/daughter relationship, she lives in Boston now, she is 21 and wants to be a medical doctor. I have a life that most people will consider a great life but to me that is just a shadow of living because there is no special one to share of this love and the little things in life with, i’m sure you understand what i mean, that is me in a nutshell, i would stop here for now, please feel free to send the next response to my personal email which is email@email.com as it is easy for me to just read on my phone and respond. enjoy the rest of your evening, looking forward to your next message. regards.

If you’re looking to learn more about online dating and romance scams check out these general online dating safety tips or download the free online dating scammers guide.

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